the vast majority of stomatopod species are small enough to live in a 10 for life, the peacocks are the most commonly imported species and they will outgrow a 10 for sure, but there are several other smaller species that will work fine.
as far as breaking glass goes, I've seen it happen, when a large specimen was provoked to do it. None of the species that I would advise you keep in a 10 will ever get large enough to shatter glass. I got my 4" Gonodactylus chiragra riled up yesterday just for fun, and he punched the glass on his 10G multiple times in the same spot while trying to take out my eye.. and there were no ill effects, other than making an evil genius frustrated... I'm pretty sure he's building a doomsday device out of LR rubble and algae in his burrow.
some relatively easy to come by species I'd reccomend are N. oerstedii, N. wennerae, or O. haveninsis, you can look them up here http://www.ucmp.berkeley.edu/arthropoda/cr....html#directory