That is my advice as well. There are so many factors to a fish tank that there is no right or wrong choice for substrate, rock, filtration, etc. That being said, you should choose the features you want in a tank and cater the rest of the equipment and inhabitants around your "must haves".
If you like fine sand, you will probably want low flow. If you want bare bottom you probably want higher flow. Larger substrate, no sand sifters, small substrate, stars, cucs, gobis, etc. If you want to start with live rock, be prepared for hitch-hikers. If you start with dry rock, expect a longer startup time.
Same goes for equipment. You don't need a skimmer or filter if you are willing to do daily water changes. Fish only tank?, HOB or canister filter will work. Corals, you will need light and flow. Do you want to create the full biotope of a reef tank or do you want to keep a rather sterile tank with mechanical and UV filtration?
We all have our favorite methods. In the end you will have to choose the one that works for the tank you are keeping.